Statistics show that fewer people are getting married now than almost anytime in history. Statistics also shows that the divorce rate in the world as well as the christian community has increased.
When we look at that we ask ourselves why is that? Could it be because our thought and views on marriage is totally the opposite from God? Is it because we look at marriage to meet our need of wanting to be loved and wanting someone to fill a vowed or need that truly only God himself can provide for us and when that vowed isn’t met we say we’ll never get married or we throw in the towel? Only to find out if we remarry that the same void exist within that marriage as well? A void only God can fill.
What if we truly understood that the purpose of marriage wasn’t or isn’t about us and our selfish desires. What if we looked at marriage truly for the reason it was created for. It was created for God by God so that through it we could model what unconditional, sacrificial love and forgiveness looks like being totally committed to another sinful human being. God never gives up on us or divorce us when we don’t do right by him. He sticks with us through all our mess and sinfulness forgiving us and loving us why? Because he’s committed to us. He’s one with us and that’s what he want marriage to represent. Two sinful people coming together as one being totally committed to one another without conditions. He says in his word that the two should become one-flesh.
When I think about the one-flesh and what that model looks like and who we should strive to model our marriages and marriage off of. I can’t help but think about Aquila and Priscilla in the bible. I’m going to share six points I learned about their marriage that we all should strive for or desire to have in our marriage.
1. When you look in the bible every-time you see their names it’s always together. You can’t find their name in the bible apart. That shows me that their marriage truly represented what God called oneness in marriage.
2. They were one in the lord. Their first commitment was to the lord by displaying their own personal relationship with him then to each other. They truly desired to live for the lord in everything they did.
3. One in occupation. I know we all won’t have or will experience this unique gift that they had but we can’t ignore the fact that not only did they serve the lord together outside of that they also shared the same profession. They where tent-makers and I would say hard workers for the gospel and in their occupation.
Acts 18:1-3 After this, Paul left Athens and went to Corinth. 2 There he met a Jew named Aquila, a native of Pontus, who had recently come from Italy with his wife Priscilla, because Claudius had ordered all Jews to leave Rome. Paul went to see them, 3 and because he was a tentmaker as they were, he stayed and worked with them.
4. They were one in friendship with the Apostle Paul who held them in high regards. Not only were they one with him just like them he also was a tent-maker and he lived with them 18 months spreading the gospel right along with them. They had a mutual interest in friendships.
Acts 18:18-19 18 Paul stayed on in Corinth for some time. Then he left the brothers and sisters and sailed for Syria, accompanied by Priscilla and Aquila. Before he sailed, he had his hair cut off at Cenchreae because of a vow he had taken. 19 They arrived at Ephesus, where Paul left Priscilla and Aquila. He himself went into the synagogue and reasoned with the Jews.
5. They were one in scripture. They knew Gods scripture and spent time-sharing it, reading it and teaching it together.
6. They were one in service of the church. They not only served the church outside of their home. They also together ran a church at their home bringing people together for the gospel of Christ and together they filled Apollo’s a man fervently on fire for the Lord with truth about the of the gospel more adequately.
Acts 18:24-26 24 Meanwhile a Jew named Apollos, a native of Alexandria, came to Ephesus. He was a learned man, with a thorough knowledge of the Scriptures. 25 He had been instructed in the way of the Lord, and he spoke with great fervor and taught about Jesus accurately, though he knew only the baptism of John. 26 He began to speak boldly in the synagogue. When Priscilla and Aquila heard him, they invited him to their home and explained to him the way of God more adequately.
1 Corinthians 16:19 The churches in the province of Asia send you greetings. Aquila and Priscilla greet you warmly in the Lord, and so does the church that meets at their house.
Aquila and Priscilla lived their marriage in true oneness. They served the Lord together as missionaries and together they died as missionaries giving up their lives by being beheaded without fear for the gospel of Jesus Christ. Aquila and Priscilla marriage truly represented the oneness in marriage just the way God created it for. Their marriage wasn’t about them but about him.
Now that you have read this and are accountable because of it. How will your marriage now or future marriage be? Will it be for you and your needs or will it be used as a model of Christs unconditional love, sacrificial love and forgiveness? Will your marriage represent like Aquila and Priscilla the love defined in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7?