The way marriage is portrayed today in society is without honor. There are more people now who claim they will never marry than ever before and that number continues to increase. The percentage of population that is married: 59%, down from 62% in 1990, 72% in 1970. The percentage of population that has never married: 24%. Divorce increased almost 40% from 1970 to 1975 .The number of currently divorced adults quadrupled from 1970-4.3 mill to 1994—17.4 mill. The reason marriage has suffered is truly because of the way society portrays it and not because of how God designed it. Just look at all the movies out there, and all the Tv shows out there. People are trying to define marriage and what it should look like but go to all the wrong places to find it. Marriage should be of three people and not two. But the problem is most marriages now are of two and not three. God is supposed to be the head and at the top. If he is not, no marriage will ever received the fullness in the way he created it. What happens is that it trickles down. We teach our sons and daughters the total opposite of how a man or woman should be in a relationship. So the cycle continues in generations. Until a marriage put God first and live it out until that happens it will never reap the total reward. No matter how someone came together, when we commit to God and put him first and no matter if they thought each other were the right one, God will make it work.
I met my wife when I was 16 and she was 18. We married when I was 18 and she was 20. I’m now 30 and she is 32. We have been together 15 years and married 12 yrs. Most people thought we were to young to marry and it wouldn’t work out. We had challenges along the way, but it was until we both lived out God first in our marriage that we reaped the benefits of marriage, the way God designed it. My wife is my best friend and I love her now more than I ever have before. When men really look at the gift God has given us, our wives, then we will reap the benefits. In Genesis Chapter 2 vs 20 and 22 the bible says God found no suitable helper for Adam so he created woman, and that he brought her to him. 2 things happened.
1 God made man a helper, and not a door mat but a helpmate. 2. God presented her to him. God gave him a gift. Wives are a gift given to men from God. We as men need to do a better job at taking care of our gift. In verse 25 they became one, not separate. In all things we should be one. What was his was hers and there were no secrets. In verse 25 the bible says, “The man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.” What does that mean? It means that they were vulnerable to one another. They didn’t hide half of themselves from their mate, but gave each other to one another totally. “Here is a pretty interesting thought and pretty ironic to me also. God only informed the husband to love his wife as himself, and every wife to respect her husband. He never told the wife, to love her husband or husband to respect his wife.
Ephesians 5:33 NIV However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. But here is the kicker!!!! If the husband love his wife as himself, she will not only respect him, but also love him. And if the wife respects her husband, he will not only love her but respect her. They both connect. When it comes to most problems in marriage, it comes down to 2 factors. 1-The wife feeling like she is not loved. 2-The husband feels like he is not respected. So the husband doesn’t show his wife love, and the wife doesn’t show the husband respect. If you’re a husband looking for respect from your wife, then show her love. If you’re a wife looking for love from your husband! Show him respect, and you both will get what you want in return. If you’re not married yet…this motto will truly be beneficial to you in your future marriage. “I thank God I got it and I strive to teach and show my children so they can continue Gods cycle in marriage. It’s available for everyone and I pray that everyone can have what I experience in marriage.